I keep fantasizing about my ex boyfriend during sex, and I’m starting to think I’m not attracted to my current partner. is this normal?

Dan & Caroline October 16, 2012
I keep fantasizing about my ex boyfriend during sex, and I’m starting to think I’m not attracted to my current partner. is this normal?

Caroline says

“Fantasies are normal and healthy. If you have to fantasize about someone else besides your partner during sex to have an orgasm, I would ask yourself why. I have had partners that I had amazing intellectual connections with but sexually did nothing for me. Sometimes you just don’t connect on a sexual level for whatever reason. I would try to be present with your current partner during sex. Look into his eyes and focus on the sensations. Being in the moment and connected with your partner during sex can be really hard for some people. Learning about tantra would be a good way to help you connect with you partner.”

Dan says

“The only time you should be worried is when you stop having sexual fantasies altogether!! Fantasies are normal, being turned on by strangers walking down the street is normal.We’re all human and that’s how we roll. If you want your current boyfriend and he turns you on awesome. If you’re fantasizing about your ex because current bf doesn’t spin your wheels then this should be addressed.”