I love my boyfriend, but he’s too submissive. How do I get him to man up?

Dan & Caroline October 23, 2012
I love my boyfriend, but he’s too submissive. How do I get him to man up?

Dan says

“After an amazing night out together, on your way home whisper softly in his ear, “I’d love it if we tried something different when we get home tonight. I’ve been fantasizing about you doing xzy to abc”. If he’s still being too soft, ask him if he can be a little bit rougher.Guys, unless she has repressed issues or she’s got more masculine energy than you do, she doesn’t want you to be her bff in the bedroom. I’m sure she already has plenty of those.”

Caroline says

“Oh good lord, I am so over submissive men! All right men, listen up. We want you to be the man. We want you to make suggestions and plans, we want you make decisions and not ask us what we want to do, where to go and what to eat. We want to agree with your ideas but we want you to make suggestions first most of the time.We want you to be the boss in the bedroom, you have the penis, we have the vagina, the penis fucks the vagina. You give, we receive. It’s biology! And by the way, most of us like it a bit rough, this is when we want to feel your strength.

Now I’m not saying we want you to be domineering neanderthals but if I wanted to be with someone the same as me, I’d date a woman. If you are dating a man that’s too submissive, tell him! Do it gently, but he can’t change it if he doesn’t know it’s a problem.”