I think my best friend is gay and in love with me and I’m not the only one who thinks this. How can I get him to just come out already?

Dan & Caroline October 8, 2012
I think my best friend is gay and in love with me and I’m not the only one who thinks this. How can I get him to just come out already?

Dan says

“You can’t. But you can have an open and honest discussion about how you’re feeling in terms of your relationship with them and the vibe you think you’re picking up. Be loving, be supportive, be kind. Be the friend you would want them to be if the shoe was on the other foot when and if they are ready to come out.”

Caroline says

“I would go out, maybe have a few drinks and talk to him about it. Tell him you think he’s gay and that you love and accept him if he is gay or straight. Be clear that you are straight. He may deny it or he may actually be straight. I have known lots of guys that are effeminate but not gay. Acceptance one of the most important aspects of a friendship and at the end of the day, it not really any of your business if he is gay or straight.”