I was sexually abused as a child and find it hard to really connect with someone because of it. Do you ever really get over it?

Dan & Caroline September 24, 2012
I was sexually abused as a child and find it hard to really connect with someone because of it. Do you ever really get over it?

Caroline says

“Yes, you can. As a therapist, I am constantly amazed at what people have been through and made stronger from. If you are finding it hard to connect, please seek some help from a therapist that works with survivors of abuse. Try to find someone who uses parts therapy, or ego state therapy and hypnotherapy as these modalities are very helpful in healing trauma from abuse.I do believe that things happen for a reason and for me, all of my traumas have made me a stronger, more empathetic person. They have given me a depth and understanding I wouldn’t have otherwise and put me on a path that I wouldn’t have gone on if they had not happened. Although it doesn’t feel like it, our traumas can be our greatest gifts. Make the commitment to heal and love yourself and the ability to connect with someone else will develop.”

Dan says

“Firstly, let me say I’m really sorry for what you’ve had to go through. Secondly, yes, it is possible. I’ve been in relationships with partners who have been abused and they’ve come out the other side stronger and more loving than when they went in.If you haven’t already I would highly recommend therapy with someone who specializes specifically in this area. The biggest thing with choosing a therapist over everything is having a strong connection. Studies have shown that connection between therapist and client supersedes the modality of the the therapy, so be picky and find someone that resonates well with you. I think when you’re ready and meet the right partner, that person will help you heal and re-write those bad experiences with amazing loving new ones. You will be able to love and to trust again and when you’re ready and open to it :-)