On another note, the fact that you’ve been online dating for two years and yet to meet someone of note says to me that you’re too focused on looking for someone to make you happy rather than becoming someone that makes you happy. Focus on the later and not only will you meet someone amazing but we’d all like to hang out with you a little more “
Look people in the eye and smile, be open and talk to the people you run into. The men that I have had the deepest connections with were ones I met by chance. I was friendly, flirty and open to them so they felt safe in asking me out. Or shock horror, I actually instigated seeing them again. If I had been on my phone or busy bitching to my friends about the so called man-drought and how all the good men are taken – those relationships would have never happened.
I personally recommend speed dating as a way to meet people. It saves a lot of time compared to online dating. I can’t count how many times I felt a connection with someone online, enjoyed talking to them on the phone, then met and felt nothing. With speed dating you know if there is chemistry in 10 seconds.
I am also a big believer in making a list of your perfect mate. I did this recently and also added the date I would meet him by. I then met a man who is everything on the list and now happily in a relationship with him. I jokingly tell him I ordered him from the universe, but I really do believe that I attracted him to me.
I think of the universe as a restaurant and you need to put your order in, otherwise you are left sitting at your table bitching about not getting your food but you haven’t let the waiter know what you want. You also need to take a good hard look at your beliefs around love since we attract what we believe. You may have blocks to love that you are not aware of. A good relationship coach or counsellor can help you with that.”