My boyfriend lasts like two seconds and never last long enough for me to feel fully satisfied. I just want him to fuck me good and hard. I’m finding myself fantasizing about better lovers. What should I do?

Dan & Caroline July 16, 2012
My boyfriend lasts like two seconds and never last long enough for me to feel fully satisfied. I just want him to fuck me good and hard. I’m finding myself fantasizing about better lovers. What should I do?

Caroline says

“Aww, honey. I feel your pain. I would talk to him about it, very gently and not right after he’s just come. If he freaks out and refused to address it, what will you lose? Two seconds of frustration?There are a ton of resources out there to help men with premature ejaculation and is very common. It takes women and men to reach orgasm during intercourse is on average for women 10-20 minutes to climax but men average 2-3 minutes. PE can be a phobia as well. They are phobic about coming too soon so they focus on it and worry about so it happens again. A good hypnotherapist, sex coach or sex therapist can be really helpful.”

Dan says

“Firstly, this is extremely common. Secondly it can almost always be improved upon. I have sooo many girlfriends talk to me about this, but none of them address it with the guy. If the guy is into you, he will want you to be satisfied in every possible way.If you don’t talk about it, and he doesn’t change anything than it will always be as it always is. Depending on how severe it is, I would look at it as something you can work on together rather than something he should work at alone.You can tell him you’d like to try tantric sex for the next month which is a technique which will take your sex life to a whole new level, but also requires him to learn self control and being comfortable with his penis being inside your vagina without an end goal of ejaculation. There’s a million books out there about it, but I think approaching it together may really strengthen your sexual relationship :-)